You are here because you are most likely in the same situation I use to be in most of my life. And that situation revolves around your relationships with women—more precisely, your ability to meet and attract women. I use to be the guy women were never attracted to, and for me, it was starting to become a big problem that was affecting other areas of my life.
Men with little confidence are faced with another problem. Majority of women are attracted to men that other women are attracted to. Basically, confidence compounds attraction women have towards a man. A high percentage of women desire only one man, and it’s usually the man other women are attracted to—the man with the most options. So, the more women that find you attractive, the more women will want to be with you just because other women want you. For many men, not having the ability to attract women turns into a self-fulfilled prophecy. The number one trait women say they find attractive in a man is his confidence. So your inability to attract women could be costing you your confidence and this in turn is making you appear less attractive in the eyes of women.
Men that have many women attracted to them are in what relationship experts call an “abundance state of mind”. When a man has more choices he has more confidence and is never desperate or clingy. Men that are not desperate or clingy are more attractive to women simply because they are more challenging to have. A man then asks himself: “Why should I hook up with this girl instead of this other girl that also likes me?” An abundance life style will get women to chase you. Everyone loves the things they can’t have!
A “scarcity state of mind” happens to men that have few or no women attracted to them. This state of mind makes a man desperate and eager to please a woman. But desperate men are rarely found attractive by confident women. A man that is desperate is nothing more than a pushover in the eyes of women, and more importantly, he offers no challenge! She can just have her way with him.
This is why the song “Some Guys Have All The Luck”, by The Persuaders in 1973, was written. It’s the law of attraction spelt out for us in a song. The more women a man can have or has, the more attractive women find him. That’s why, according to the song, some guys have all the luck and some guys have all the pain.
The good news is that men can learn the skills necessary to become more attractive to women. I know because women use to find me unattractive. Ever since I was a teen I’ve made it my personal mission. I’ve been a loser with women most of my life. When I was younger I was in amazing shape, polite, friendly, and shy, had good hygiene and morals, believed in love, commitment, loyalty and relationships. In a nutshell, I was a nice guy. If there is one thing I’ve learned, women have no interest in nice guys. In high school it was always the cool guys and the bad asses that got all the beautiful women.
This caused me to go through an angry phase in my life because I was NOT getting what I wanted out of life or out of my relationships with women. I never got the women I truly desired. I never even kissed a girl until I was 17!
Once I got into online dating my experience with woman began to change. It started in 2005. When I started online dating I sucked. I couldn’t get women interested in my profile no matter what I did. I couldn’t get any responses, not even from unattractive women. One night I decided to sit down and really put some time and serious thought into my profile. When I was done I created a masterpiece that would change my relationships with women forever. The replies I started getting from women was going through the roof. I had to put together a spreadsheet to keep track of all the girl’s names and numbers I was getting. Since I started going on so many dates I started getting really comfortable with women. I was even getting “lucky” with more woman than I use to.
But my major life changes with women didn’t start until a few years later. Before my transformation, I was getting involved in relationships with women I really didn’t desire to be with. When I turned 36 something changed in the way I looked at women. I realized that there had to be a logical explanation of why there are “those guys” that get all the “luck”.
I was single and living in my new downtown apartment. My buddy Brandon calls me up one night. He’s only about 5’7”, looks like a muscle mag guy, and has the characteristics of a pit bull. He smokes like a chimney and breaths like he’s always short of breath due to a respiratory problem. He can be vulgar when he wants to be and always treats women like absolute garbage. He starts telling me about the 16 different girls he has had sex with in the last month and tells me he’s had sex with over 300 women in his life! What I found even more perplexing was the things he said to these girls to get them back to his place and into bed with him. It was stupid shit, and I couldn’t even believe women gave him the time of day. He told this one girl a joke he heard in a movie to pick her up. “What has two thumbs and likes blow jobs?” As he points to himself with his two thumbs, “This guy right here!”
Then he tells me it doesn’t even matter what you say. All that mattered was making the woman laugh and giving her some lame reason to come back to your place. I said he should write a book and call it “101 Ways To Get A Woman To Come Home With You On the First Date!” He told me other people had told him to write a book too. But don’t count on it.
His classic pickup line was when he told this girl he cared for abandoned puppies. The girl turned to putty in his hands and he had no problem getting her back to his place. Of course when they got back to his place there were no puppies, but at that point it didn’t matter. He had her spread eagle on his couch faster than she could say blow job!
These crazy stories are what got me asking questions about how a woman’s mind works. Why can some guys turn women on to the point where their panties fly off like they were on fire? And why are there successful, good looking guys getting no sex from women at all? What are these guys doing? I know for a fact Brandon doesn’t fit the typical profile of what women say they want—tall, dark, handsome, established, blah, blah, blah. But Brandon does have one characteristic I know even the most beautiful women can’t resist… He’s a bad boy. Why do women love bad ass men so much?
My Google search started with “pickup lines”. I started coming across information products created to teach men how to meet and pickup women. Eventually I bought one. My first product purchase was ok, but there was a lot left unexplained on the psychology behind it. He just did it because it had always worked for him. I tried some of his tactics but only some worked and others bombed badly. I still felt like there were too many pieces of the puzzle missing. Still, I was getting more confident simply because I had a few guidelines to keep me on track.
A few weeks later I get an email from this guy telling me about this guy who is a professional relationship dynamics expert with women. This new guy talks about stuff I never really thought about but it made a lot of sense. No brainer stuff that’s easy to do but gets amazing results with women.
As soon as I started applying this guys techniques my sex life took a complete 360. I started to understand how to make women more attracted to me. Did you follow that? You can literally MAKE women more attracted to you. I just applied a few simple strategies I had learned.
My state of mind changed, to what he called, the “abundance state of mind. My attitude and state of mind changed towards women. More importantly, my beliefs changed. Today I have numerous relationships with women. Today my relationships with women aren’t anywhere close to how they use to be.
Turn your current situation around with women. You don’t need to have a lot of money. You don’t need an amazing physique. You don’t need to look like a super modle. You don’t even need a job or a career. Take it from me. I’m broke, don’t even have a job and drive an old beat up mini-van. But I still have a different woman for every night of the week.
My material affairs have little to do with my success with women. My buddy Brandon is in the same predicament as me. We’re almost 40 and neither of us is established and we have very little money. That’s the power of confidence and behaving like an alpha-male instead of a wuss. Women are finding it more difficult to find alpha men in today’s modern world. This is mainly due to the woman’s rights movement we’ve been seeing for the last few decades, which is another story all together.
A lot of men think that if they tell a women about all their “stuff” and success that she’ll be impressed. But women just find men like this boring. A woman’s imagination is the most erotic part of her being. Get her imagination going and you can get what you want out of her! That’s what my buddy Brandon did with his ridiculous stories and jokes. He understands the secret turn on switch most men don’t even know women have. Women want to be seduced, not sexualized. And her imagination is the key to seducing her.
After studying this new world of the woman’s psyche my dating experiences starting becoming sexual experiences more often. One night I went on a date with a 27 year old cutie I met online. I tried out a few body language moves I learned and a trick that makes women feel like they’ve been on multiple dates with you. Next thing I know I’m in bed with her at her place. As she’s taking off her panties with a guilty look in her eyes she says “You know… You really shouldn’t have sex on the first date.” Then her panties land on the floor!
That was a pivotal moment for me because I was finally gaining control of my relationships with women. Why would a moment like that mean so much to me? That moment just wasn’t about seducing a young woman out of her panties. I learned that all I had to do was put my mind into getting what I wanted to make it happen. Also, women are more attracted to men that get what they want.
Majority of my life I couldn’t figure out how to attract women. When I was a young teen there was this girl I always wanted, but she only saw me as a friend. Years went by and we bumped into each other on an online dating website. She asked me over to her place to hangout and have a drink, but she still wasn’t into me.
A few years later she finds out that I know one of her female acquaintance and it just so happens that this other girl had liked me for some time. And we already know women just can’t help but be interested in a guy other women are interested in.
By the time this girl got around to getting interested in me I had been reading all kinds of woman seduction guides. The next time we got together things went exactly the way I wanted them to go. Understanding a woman’s mind can get you out of the friend zone with her. Even if you’ve known her for years and she’s never been interested in you before.
So, do some guys get all the luck? The truth is, luck has nothing to do with it. The logic of attraction in a woman’s mind can be unlocked. Once you understand this your relationships with women will catapult to the next level.
I solved many of my internal personal problems by getting what I wanted out of my relationships with women. I’m happier, more confident, and it has even improved my relationships with friends and family. Your current situation with women is only going to change if you do something about it. So do something about it today! Women will love you for it!